I am Lisa L'Heureux. As some of you know, I had been involved in violent and abusive relationships for much of my life. What I now think is this, being mean doesn't mean that a person is tough. Instead, in my opinion, a person that can face daily life and handle everyday emotions is much more solid than someone who goes around getting what they want through intimidation and manipulation. Kindness also makes a person strong.
I always thought that it was considered a weakness to show love. I rightly believed that love makes a person vulnerable. I still think that is true but I no longer believe that it is bad to be vulnerable. It is a part of the human condition. There are people who will take advantage of a person when they are vulnerable. This is the way of the abuser, I suppose.
As with any of the other issues I had picked up over the years, I am certainly not out of the woods with this Domestic Abuse thing, either. After all, I had managed to attract at least 10 abusive people into my life before now.
As with any of the other issues I had picked up over the years, I am certainly not out of the woods with this Domestic Abuse thing, either. After all, I had managed to attract at least 10 abusive people into my life before now.
Is it true that we create our lives? Do we actually bring a certain kind of people into our lives? I noticed that since I quit drinking for quite a while there are no people in my life that are exceedingly judgy anymore. There is no one that causes rifts or that I cannot handle being around. I will not have it. Maybe life doesn't have to be as difficult as I once thought. Or maybe it does.
I don't know all the answers. All I can do is what I am able. I can meet and talk with people about Domestic Violence. I am able to help raise awareness. I can be a part of initiatives that focus on prevention, safety planning and education. I wasn't able to see that I could leave my abuser. I thought that he would forever be stalking me. He... I should say, they. Now that I have been through all I have and come out on the other side, I have a different perspective.
I don't know all the answers. All I can do is what I am able. I can meet and talk with people about Domestic Violence. I am able to help raise awareness. I can be a part of initiatives that focus on prevention, safety planning and education. I wasn't able to see that I could leave my abuser. I thought that he would forever be stalking me. He... I should say, they. Now that I have been through all I have and come out on the other side, I have a different perspective.
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Lisa L'Heureux is the author of 7 books. Her work includes the Lisa's Sober Blog Series, This and the Man in the Moon and This One is About Domestic Violence. She lives with her family in Alberta, Canada.
More than six years ago, Lisa retired from practicing alcoholism.
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